I recently attended the Womens Prosperity Network breakfast and was so inspired to see so many women in South Florida gathering to grow, learn and connect. It’s very true what … says “Everyone communicates, not everyone connects.”
I truly believe all entrepreneurs crave for a community of like minded people where they can be transparent and grow their business at the same time. Connecting with successful people always leaves me with inspiration and hope, comfort and joy, and a whole bunch of business; for this I am grateful.
The late Milton Berle was quoted saying “If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.” I appreciate his desire to create something but I’m not a carpenter, I’m an entrepreneur, a writer. I easily make connections and not until recently did I value that in myself. Now, with the convenience of blogging and social media, I get to really hustle to get all my ideas out. It’s a good problem to have.
I know Miltons use of ‘door’ was vague and probably not literal.
This is sort of a brainstorm exercise for when you’re really ready to invest time into it. Come back when you’re feeling reflective and creative, it will always be here on Dreamosity.com or stay and enjoy ~
If you were to die tomorrow, would that intelligence of yours go down the drain?
Would that $40K-200K college degree go down the drain? Or the school of hard knocks? Would your family memories be preserved neatly somewhere or would they be lost? What is your family’s tradition with family portraits and album sharing? Do you journal and have all your million dollar ideas written, or are they hidden beneath your frontal lobe? These are the things I think about… I see so many talented people on facebook every day, these micro moments of joy and celebration and I wonder how do they document what’s truly special. Continue reading ›
Search Engine Optimization (SEO) is a combination of techniques use to improve the volume and quality of people visiting or ‘trafficking’ to your blog from search engines. Meaning, when people search for a specific term “How to Make A tipping Point” or “Twitter Tools” they’ll get Google’s nominated results. The goals with SEO is to match your blog with the people you’re able to serve. It’s a matching game. Continue reading ›
Featured Video of Sonika and Christian on the importance of Questions
My dear friends Christian and Sonika truly inspire me to see the good in my relationships. After I saw them post this video on Facebook, I just knew I wanted to interview them. I met this couple last spring at a real estate workshop and, I knew they had something I wanted, something I hadn’t yet figured out. They’ve got one of the most passionate, encouragement filled, inspiring, never give up on each other relationships. What girl doesn’t want that?
Here are some highlights of my interview:
What questions can I ask myself to enrich my relationships?
1. What do I want?
2. Why do I want that?
3. If I already were or had blank, how would I be, what would I do right now?
The only reason we ever want something, is because we believe we’ll have a certain experience. Hopeful, confident, If you already felt hopeful and confident, how would you be in a given situation (out on date). If I already felt hopeful, secure, how would you be with your partner right now?
Your mind will answer that question. The beauty of your mind is that it will answer any question that ask. (Dreamosity purpose best explained!!)
The answer you get depends on the question you ask.
There are 2 types of questions: those that CONTRACT, those that EXPAND.
Answers will either be fearful, or it will be hopeful.
Test yourself:
What question will help me expand?
Why are you a failure?
Why are you a success?
No matter what you ask, you’ll find evidence supporting that question.
If I ask questions that are expanding, you’ll get expansive answers allowing you to rise further.
How can I better help you share your passion? How can I make things better for your dream. I wonder how to make that happen.
What questions do you ask yourself to best love your children?
Christian has a 12 year old son so he loved this question. Christian asks, “What in me is having him show up like that? What is my contribution to him showing up like that in my reality?”
These questions all help us take a new, even radical level of responsibility for our relationships.
The affect you can have on children is amazing.
Example. There was a time when my son was scared, of the dark, dogs, so scared he wouldn’t go to bathroom alone in the day. Sonika asked what is it in me that has him show up like that. She found something wonderful, he would connect deeper, this sweet protective feeling like he needed her. She asked herself ‘what am I doing to have him show up like that?’ Once she found it, she declared to herself that Jessie you can grow up, I don’t need you to be scared to have good connection and bond. The very next day, he came home with stories of playing with the neighbors dog as if he was never scared of dogs.
What questions can we ask to best love our parents?
What is it in me that is holding them to that role?
Example:
Typically we live in a story of how our childhood was. Maybe its painful, maybe great. We all live in this story that my family did this and that. My parents were never home, dad always worked, etc. That means I have a story and when we live in the story, Your mind will search for evidence to prove it. So if my story is I didn’t get love much as a kid, everything I experience will prove it. If you want to change that. You have to be willing to be wrong about the story. You have to ask yourself if my parents were parents for me, what story would I need to be wrong about?
Simplified: Where do I see my parents did the best they could. Your mind will search for that was right and good. Food on the table, dental care, etc.
What about enriching relationships with employees?
What is this persons biggest gift/talent? If I knew this person had great skills, really loves to work here, really wanted to contribute their top best, how would I treat them?
What do you need to feel good about being here and giving it your best?
Romantic Relationships?
If I knew you loved me, if you knew you wanted to give me what I want, how would I be?
What do you ask to best grow confidence?
If I were already totally confident, what action would I take?
If I were already this person I dream of being, what action would I take? Who would I call, who would I collaborate with? Then do what the answer is.
This applies for any quality we want more of: Risk taker, great negotiator, more compassionate, etc.
I am so grateful for this opportunity to share their story, their love, their questions and their purpose. They’ve got so much valuable experience to share. Please find them on youtube and for more on Christian and Sonika and their live events in Northern California, please visit them at http://loveworksforyou.com
Please reshare to those you know will benefit. Make it a love filled year friends.
Have something you want everyone to know about? Just want to connect with people going through what you are? Want it to better target your audience?
The Tipping point will change how you see and interact in the world, and now with Facebook. When I first read it years ago my mind was blow away by everything that is possible. Today with technology, I bet you’re so grateful you’ve read this book. Continue reading ›
I learned a long while back, “where attention goes, energy flows”. When you put attention on something, it grows. It’s my intention to grow this blog and write about what I learn and I invite you along for the journey. As of today it’s been 3 months since I’ve been blogging and wow have I learned a ton.
Ever since I had an NLP coach re-pattern my mind to ‘love the numbers,‘ it’s been a fun journey learning the mathmatical, analytical, data side of things. If you’re an artsty type, very creative and naturally don’t care about the numbers, please do your best to enjoy the pretty graphs and see where it applies to you.
1. Where are people coming from?
You can easily find out what country, even what city people are reading your blog. I thought because I had networks in 3 states, that my writing would stop there, oh was I wrong. I got traffic from over 37 states and 44 countries. It’s a pretty cool feeling to experience when I saw that.
2. How do people find me?
You can also see how you generate most of your traffic. I get the majority of my traffic from referring sites in blue because right now I use Facebook and Twitter to get the word out. The direct traffic in green is when people directly type your url into their browser. Search Engines in orange is when people find you based on key words and your ability to SEO well.
3. Have I made any progress?
You can also compare one month (or period of time) to another on any paticular set of data. Here is my first month compared page views to my third month. This isn’t overly meaningful to me, but when you start to run campaigns and various tests to see what works best, this will be an invaluable way to measure and track data.
4. Do people keep coming back for more?
One other thing you can find out is how frequently do people visit your blog. This may or may not apply to the purpose of your blog, but it’s good to know you can find it. I know only 56% of my visits are one time, but that leaves 44% have returned at least two times.
I do wish there was one way that I could delete my own page views/visits. I’m pretty sure I check my blog a little obsessively which would skew my data, but if I’m reading it right, I’m not the only one. Maybe I have a stalker? Maybe I’m way off in interpreting the data. If you know, please educate me you SEO super stars.
5. How much time are people spending on my site?
One last Google Analytics trick is to see the average time people spend on your site. My average visitor time on site is 2 and a half minutes and I know that the days I blog, I’ll have the blog open for more time, like on April 10th you see I had average over 7 minutes, that may also be because its a video blog, or because people leave their browsers open in a second tab. Whatever the case may be, Google Analytics also reports any changes in this, like -3.5% or +15% (again very useful for various campaigns).
I hope this has been informative and interesting. It’s really important for you to understand that every time you Retweet or Reshare someone’s article, video’s, etc you’re really paying it forward and helping them build awareness of their material. I’m very thankful for the people who reshare and helps the content go viral. My blog about the 5 love languages was shared 20 times in the first 2 days, that’s when you know you’re on to something. Some of the Super blogs like Mashable get 1000+ reshares and reweets.
I enjoy writing and even if people didn’t enjoy it, I’d keep writing because someone out there will find value in my work, and the same is true for you. Thankfully for me, people keep coming to my site, along with people from other countries whom I’ve never met. So, THANK YOU!
I’m definitely open and very curious to hearing what you’re learning about tracking your blog online. I’m 3 months into this journey and this blog serves as a visual history in my mind. I may not understand it to the fullest, but I sure am having fun. I am so grateful for the boys at SMA that’ve helped me find the fun in blogging, if you haven’t joined the game yet check this out .
Finally I want to leave you with this quote from Mary Kay Ash, “There are three types of people in this world: those who make things happen, those who watch things happen and those who wonder what happened.” Which will you be?
1. Millions of people are doing it, for fun, for inspiration, for dating, for business, and more. It really is a social phenomenon.
2. You can brand yourself by using pictures, quotes, advice, tips, voice messages, coupons for your customers, great deals and more. I personally like asking questions =)
3. Lists can help you organize your real life friends from your travel buddies, people who inspire you, funny people, etc. For more visit my mentors blog article on lists.
4. You can make money if you’ve got a big following. Tweet for a living, hmmm.
5. You can get inside the minds of people you wouldn’t normally reach.
6. The people you meet!! From business gurus, to people who tweet 20x a day… you always have someone to connect with.
7. You learn things you never knew existed.
8. Finding Hashtags like #iLove where you all you do is write what you love following the hashtag. Genius.
9. Meeting people in real live after first meeting them on twitter. Please use your best judgement here.
There are two types of people in the world: those who make things happen, those who watch things happen and those who wonder what happened. Mary Kay Ash
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I recently attended the Womens Prosperity Network breakfast and was so inspired to see so many women in South Florida gathering to grow, learn and connect. It’s very true what … says “Everyone communicates, not everyone connects.” 
